Baby, family, Mom life, New Mom, Pregnancy, Uncategorized

Writing to my Son

Being able to create and capture memories was a priority for me from the very beginning of my pregnancy. Specifically, it was important that I took lots of pictures, printed them in an actual album like my mother used to do and triple save them on a hard drive somewhere because you just never know. I wanted to do something more, I wanted to write to him and tell him about his firsts, our family, and the world, so, I thought to myself…”what better way to do that than to create an e-mail address?” and so I did just that.

There are so many things I wanted to say to my son before he was even born, but my partner and I hadn’t agreed on a name and if we had, I would have absolutely started then, but I wanted to create an e-mail address that he can take over when he gets older (firstnamelastname@gmail.com), something simple, professional and to the point. I wasn’t going to play my own son with something embarrassing like mamisbaby2019@gmail.com, or elprimerhijodeEnid@gmail.com (I thought about it tho). I opened up his gmail when he was born and wrote my first e-mail to him on his one month (February 2nd). I shared how much his dad and I loved him, I shared dates of his first bath, his first laugh, and how loving and cute he is. I also told him about this grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles and how my pregnancy went. After that first e-mail, I made sure to write to him 1-2 times a month with his firsts or some of our amazing family memories. I also gave my close family and friends his e-mail address so they can also share their stories and memories with him.

At this point, he probably has enough stories to create a book, but I will continue to write to him until he’s old enough to take over. Initially, I thought about this because of the unknown. What if I die before he grows into adulthood and then I would never have the opportunity to share our memories like my parents did with me? I want to make sure he knows he was loved from the very beginning and in my own words.These are positive reminders for when he’s feeling down, needs to be uplifted or just curious about his early years – when he was an infant, toddler and small child. It’s saved safely (hopefully), where only my partner and I have access.

There are so many different ways to capture memories and this one I just had to do to “stay with the times”.

xoxo,

Enid

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Baby Registry Essentials

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Donde comienzo? *cue the music*

There are so many unnecessary items I had on my baby registry. Items I used less than 3 times and I honestly only used them because I felt guilty I had it and was letting it dust up. But… this post isn’t about those items, this is about the stuff I really used and I would buy over and over again.

I was speaking to a few of my mom friends and we agreed that if we could go back, we would re-do our baby registries, so here goes nothing:

Must-Haves

  1. Diapers – like a lot of them (I prefer swaddlers)  – click here.
  2. Wipes – I absolutely love the Costco Kirkland brand
  3. Butt Paste – click here.
  4. NoseFrida – click here.
  5. Safety 1st Nursery Deluxe Kit – click here.
  6. Soothie Pacifiers – click here.
  7. Baby Dove kit – click here.
  8. Baby Lounger by Boppy – not the regular one – click here.
  9. Gripe Water – click here.
  10. Humidifier with Vapo pads – click here.
  11. Diaper Bag (this is the one I use because it’s spacious and goes with everything) – click here.
  12. Bottles (my son loves tommee tippee) – click here.
  13. Car Seat (my son still uses this one) – click here.
  14. Stroller – click here.
  15. Diaper Genie – click here.
  16. Bottle Brush Cleaner – click here.
  17. Onesies
  18. Infant bottoms
  19. Hats
  20. Bibs
  21. Socks (you can use these as mittens too, no need to splurge on the real thing lol)
  22. Swaddlers
  23. Baby towels and wash cloths
  24. Dreft – click here.
  25. Breast pump and accessories ( I used Medela, but I heard Spectra is also good) – click here.
  26. Sophie the Giraffe – trust me – click here.
  27. Playard – click here.

Sinceramente, everything else was a luxury, but these items should be a part of the baby bible because I used these things just about every day!

P.S. You don’t need a damn baby wipe warmer! lol All jokes aside, it dries up the wipes and that gets super annoying.

Enjoy!

Baby, New Mom, planner, Pregnancy, travel, Uncategorized

Traveling with a Baby – What to Pack

My son is currently 15 months old and already has traveled to a few cool places, such, as, Dominican Republic, Barbados, Pennsylvania, and South Carolina by plane. His first flight was when he was 6 months old to DR… yes an international flight and boy was it a lot. I’m a full blown planner; therefore, it is really important for me to take weeks before the trip to get my life together. I’m also one of those people that would rather overpack than underpack so bear with me while I take you through my process.

There is a slight difference to how I pack depending if it is international or not, here we go:

International (Caribbean) 

I’ll be using a 7 day example in checklist form:

  • 2 – 3 outfits for baby per day
    • Onesies – about 10 (some count as a full outfit because they are the shorts kind) – even some long sleeve ones
    • Tops – 5
    • bottoms – 7
    • Shoes – 2 flip flops/ sandals and 2 pairs of little shoes or sneakers
    • Socks
    • Bibs – about 10
    • 2- 3 swim outfits
    • 2 hats for the sun

Note: I lay my baby on the bed and put the outfits together on top of him to make sure they go and that he has enough variety. lol

  • Other important items
    • 5 diapers per day
    • 2 – 3 packs of wipes (with the heat I found myself using more wipes than usual
    • Medication (Tylenol, Benadryl, baby Vapor Rub, Saline nasal spray) – you just never know
    • Baby soap
    • Baby lotion
    • Eczema Therapy lotion if needed
    • Aquaphor
    • Boogie sucker cleaner thingy
    • Nail clippers
    • Conditioner/ curl cream (my son has super curly hair that needs to be moisturized daily
    • Wet Ones
    • Changing Pad
    • Blanket
    • 2-3 Bottles
    • Bottle Brush
    • Mini Dr. Bronner’s liquid soap
    • 2-3 Bobos (our super Dominican word for pacifier)
    • Pacifier wipes (safe for baby when pacifier drops and you don’t have access to water and soap)
    • A week’s supply of formula (I was not able to breastfeed so this was  a must, but if you breastfeed make sure to pack storage baggies)
    • If baby is over 1 – when my son went to Barbados, he was on whole milk and we put 3 bottles worth in a Hydro Flask with 2 – 3 ice cubes for the trip.
      • When we landed we went straight to a supermarket to find whole milk
    • Snacks – my son loves Gerber puffs and Happy baby Organics fruit pouches
    • Baby safe suntan lotion
    • Mosquito repellant
    • First Aid Kit
    • Ziplock bags or those good smelling diaper bags for the dirty diapers and dirty clothes
    • Favorite toys and books
    • Travel playpen/ playard
  • More important items and International travel reminders
    • Lightweight stroller
    • Car Seat
    • Fully packed Diaper bag
    • Car Seat and Stroller travel bags

Note: The car seat and stroller can be checked in free of charge. The diaper bag is the baby’s personal item. Keep in mind that babies are considered lap infants before the age of 2 and do not need to purchase a ticket; therefore, they cannot have a checked bag. Your packing game needs to be strong to make sure you can fit your things and baby’s things in one piece of luggage. I wouldn’t really recommend to have a checked bag, carry on and personal item when traveling through the airport because it is super overwhelming! Keep it simple and keep the necessary items close by!

  • Baby’s passport
  • If traveling with only 1 parent, get a signed, notarized letter from the other parent stating they are aware and okay with the travel (sometimes the airline asks for it)
  • JetBlue lets you add the infant when purchasing your ticket, but Delta does not, you have to call them after you purchase your ticket to add the infant (this was pretty annoying)
  • If possible, try to get TSA Precheck – this has helped a ton
  • Be prepared to get the diaper bag checked when you go through security (EVERYTIME)

The Actual Travel Part

It’s not easy! I repeat, it’s NOT easy! Picture this… you have your baby in a stroller, with the diaper bag hanging, with your backpack on your bag, with a large checked bag and the carseat in a long line. It’s no fun! Give yourself time, ask for help if needed and keep your eye on the prize. I’ve traveled with my boyfriend, parents, brothers, and cousins, and even with all these people, it’s still super stressful.

Some of my Amazon faves from the packing list above:

Domestic Travel

The major difference when traveling domestically is that I don’t go so hard on packing items that I can find in the U.S. For example, I’ll pack lighter on diapers, wipes, snacks, and formulas. Don’t get me wrong, these things were in Dominican Republic and Barbados, but very different than what I am used to using.

Also, no need to pack a passport, a birth certificate will suffice.

Visit soon. I will be uploading what I pack for myself.

xoxo

Baby, Health, Keto, New Mom, Pregnancy, Uncategorized

How I Lost 20 Pounds on Keto

It’s no secret that I was hella’ pregnant last year and gave birth to my son on January 2nd, 2019, but what I haven’t spoken about is the weight I gained and the difficulties of losing the baby weight. Moms and future moms – this is a touchy subject for all because I know we all have the hopes to snap back to our normal selves and unfortunately, that is not always the reality.

Let me start with pre-baby. I was at the lowest weight I have been in adult life, which was 138 lbs. I say adult life because I was in my prime in high school at 120 lbs. and then college life hit and it was all downhill from there. Like where does our metabolism go? Anyway, I got to this weight from a mix of removing refined sugars, flour and all processed foods from my diet, as well as, light exercise, yoga, etc. In another post I will explain the why behind my drastic change in eating habits, but it was health related.

During pregnancy, I craved a lot of carbs, everything that I wasn’t eating in the past year. I was literally eating like it was the end of the world and would use the excuse “I’m eating for two” or “it’s okay, I’m pregnant”. Well, let me tell you, it was NOT ok. I went in for my last appointment before I gave birth and I weighed 198 lbs. Yes, I gained about 60 lbs. and the sad part was that only 6 lbs of that was my baby boy. If I could go back, I would definitely stick to a healthier lifestyle during my pregnancy.

Now, the only thing that kept me sane was everyone telling me that as long as I breastfed, I would lose the weight quickly, which I have seen from my friends and family members so it was believable. Well, this wasn’t an option for me. Not only did my son not latch, but he had tongue-tie, a condition in which the tissue under the tongue is too short or thick. This stopped him from moving his tongue freely. I ended up pumping and putting the milk in a bottle and feeding, but unfortunately, I could not keep up and by the time we had his surgery on February 4th, he didn’t want to latch at all. I dried up and we transitioned to formula.

I can write a whole blog on the feeling of disappointment for not being able to breastfeed or people shaming mothers who have to use formula, but that’s a whole other story. The point here is that I didn’t lose weight from breastfeeding as I was being told. I did however, lose about 10 pounds instantly from water weight and all that other pregnancy stuff (I’m not an expert).

So, I started doing research and found Keto. There were a lot of articles on both the pros and cons, but I took the “what the hell” approach, what did I have to lose? One thing I knew for sure, you couldn’t go into this diet without meal prepping or planning ahead. Keto is about high fats, mid protein and low carb. To keep me on track I downloaded an app – Carb Manager. The app will tell you how much fat, protein and carbs you should eat, but what I really like is that any food that you put into the app it’ll grade it A, B, C, D, or F in terms of what is Keto friendly or not.  Also note that it tracks net carbs, which are carbs – fiber.

I would meal prep on Sundays and typically would make 6 – 7 lunches and dinners. For breakfast I would make bulletproof coffee, which is how I got a lot of my fats in. Below I will provide an example of a day of eating for me. In the first 2 weeks alone, I lost 10 pounds and was shocked at how much energy I had and how less bloated I looked! It was great. Then the weight loss started slowing down, but still happening so I kept at it. In about 2 months, I had lost 20 pounds. As of today, I weigh 165 and my goal weight is 145 lbs.

This diet has been successful for many people, but you really have to stay committed and organized. Being Dominican, it has been a struggle not eating rice, platanos, beans, and a whole bunch of  other unhealthy things, but I must say that I love the results. Additionally, I have also been intermittent fasting 16:8. For this I have downloaded an app called Zero. I will normally have my last meal before 7PM. Again, I am no health expert, but Keto and fasting have definitely been my best friend.

If you decide to begin this diet, please do your research to see what combination of foods would be best for you. Also, beware of the Keto flu and how you will manage getting all of your vitamins in.

Typical Day:

Breakfast

  • Black Coffee
  • Kerrygold Irish Butter (Unsalted)
  • MCT Oil

Snack

  • Raw almonds
  • String Cheese

Lunch

  • Shredded chicken
  • Buffalo Sauce
  • Cream Cheese
  • Ranch Dressing
  • Broccoli

Dinner

  • Steak
  • Mashed cauliflower with shredded cheese and butter

Other Keto foods I love:

  • Eggs
  • Bacon
  • Avocado
  • Bunless Burgers with cheese and mustard
  • Pork Chops
  • Green veggies
  • Buffalo Wings
  • Dark Chocolate
  • Fat bombs
  • Cheese wrapped in salami
  • Pork Rinds
  • Beef Jerky
  • Raw Mixed Nuts
  • Steak
  • Seafood
  • Creamy dressings
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The New enidcarolyne.com

Hola my fellow readers. I know it’s been a while and I previously promised that I would write more, but being a new mom has taken a bit of a toll on my blogging life. Perdoname. Although, I have been blatantly ignoring my blogging duties to the world, I have decided to make a change that would encourage me to upload more often and connect with my readers and followers.

Going forward, I will be writing about my life – yes, my life, my passions, and my curiosities, but hear me out, I promise that it is somewhat interesting and hopefully can help each of you as you dabble in different things in your life.

Some things you will be seeing:

  • Mom life
  • Hair & Makeup
  • Health & Dieting
  • DIY Projects
  • Education
  • Saving Tips
  • Friendships
  • Relationships
  • Favorites
  • Hacks

Overall, this will be a one stop shop for everyone using my life experiences. I hope that my audience can find useful tips, tricks or encouraging words as I realign enidcarolyne.com.

Thank you for your patience,

Enid

Baby, Beauty, Curls, Curly Hair, Natural Hair, New Mom, Pregnancy, Uncategorized

Postpartum Hair Loss

Okay, so this is something that I have literally teared up about the last few weeks. Even when I was shedding like crazy my hair did not fall out as much as it has with my last two wash days. Postpartum hair loss is real ya’ll and yes I was warned, but it hit me hard when it actually happened. I honestly thought I got away with it because I was living my best life and my hair was flourishing. Well, ladies and gentleman, I got the “you thought”directly from the hair gods because the pictures you see above is the hair that comes out when I detangle. I also lose a lot of strands every time I run my fingers through my hair. Again, all of this may be normal for some of you, but for me, this is insane and very out of the ordinary.

I’ve read that this is normal and that your hair should be back to normal within 6 months to a year of giving birth, but I am not satisfied with this answer. I have noticeable bald spots on both sides of my forehead and I already have a five head so this is unacceptable. I totally get that my estrogen levels went drastically down and that’s why my luxurious curls (yes, I’m exaggerating) are falling out before my own eyes.

So what have I done? I went to the hair witches… just kidding, I went to a Dominican beauty supply and asked the experts about what I can use to at least slow down this process. I have been washing my hair with Tricovit shampoo and conditioner (click name for Amazon). It claims to prevent hair loss and help with growth. I’m also putting in these drops (ampoyas), which I am blanking on the name of (will update this week). The shampoo and conditioner smell good, but they have a lot of ingredients that I would normally stay away from, such as sulfates, so this is very temporary until I am able to restore my hair. I also cut off about 2 inches to keep my hair healthy and light. At this point, I’ll try just about anything.

I previously wrote about Capilo products, which I really, really wanted, but had to order through Amazon and I didn’t want to wait, which is why I desperately visited the beauty supply. If these don’t work, I will probably be reordering Capilo!

If anyone has experienced this, I would love to hear your process. Please write to me here, through an IG DM or e-mail – enidfernandez89@gmail.com

xoxo

Baby, Curls, Curly Hair, Makeup, Natural Hair, New Mom, Pregnancy

I’m back and I’m a mom

Firstly, let me apologize because I’m a piece of shit. The last time I wrote on my blog was in July when I was about 4 months pregnant. They are not lying when they say your baby drains you of all your energy because I totally left this blog and everything else I loved behind. I just didn’t have it in me to write, post pictures, and frankly… to be cute. You may notice that my Instagram also took a hit. lol But let’s put all of that in the past –  I am back and better than ever.

My life has changed a bit and I now have a beautiful, sweet baby boy. Although my blog will remain as a curly hair and beauty site, I will definitely be sprinkling some of my mom thoughts and how I balance my passions with my little one. If you are not okay with that, I will hold the imaginary door for you on the way out. lol I am also using this next statement for accountability purposes: I promise to post a new blog every other Thursday going forward.

Let me recap my entire pregnancy, hair and beauty life in a small paragraph:

I have no idea how these pregnant beauty bloggers and Instagram moms do it – looking all majestic while being pregnant all the time. That’s not me – I was looking like a straight homeless woman (my apologies if I offended anyone). I even almost forgot how to do my everyday cat eye and my hair remained in a nice bun the majority of the time. Don’t even get me started on my weekly deep conditioning – it just wasn’t happening. I also have a small shower and being as big as I was, there wasn’t space for me to wash my hair and detangle how I would have liked. Instead, my hair wash days shifted to a nearby sink, but let me tell you – my arms almost gave out. SMH. I’ll be the first to say, that I was at my laziest during my pregnancy – you can judge me all you want. I was; however, committed to having beautiful curly locks while I gave birth – you know? For the pictures and the visitors lol. It was tough, but I achieved it. The toughest part was that I had absolutely no patience while I was washing, deep conditioning and air drying. Probably because I also had no patience for my son who was giving his momma contractions, but he just wasn’t coming. At the end of the day, I was cute my curly hair and I felt accomplished.

If anybody wants to hear about my labor experience as a first time mom – send me a message on here or DM me on Instagram and I will blog my experience.

xoxo