Being able to create and capture memories was a priority for me from the very beginning of my pregnancy. Specifically, it was important that I took lots of pictures, printed them in an actual album like my mother used to do and triple save them on a hard drive somewhere because you just never know. I wanted to do something more, I wanted to write to him and tell him about his firsts, our family, and the world, so, I thought to myself…”what better way to do that than to create an e-mail address?” and so I did just that.
There are so many things I wanted to say to my son before he was even born, but my partner and I hadn’t agreed on a name and if we had, I would have absolutely started then, but I wanted to create an e-mail address that he can take over when he gets older (email@example.com), something simple, professional and to the point. I wasn’t going to play my own son with something embarrassing like firstname.lastname@example.org, or elprimerhijodeEnid@gmail.com (I thought about it tho). I opened up his gmail when he was born and wrote my first e-mail to him on his one month (February 2nd). I shared how much his dad and I loved him, I shared dates of his first bath, his first laugh, and how loving and cute he is. I also told him about this grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles and how my pregnancy went. After that first e-mail, I made sure to write to him 1-2 times a month with his firsts or some of our amazing family memories. I also gave my close family and friends his e-mail address so they can also share their stories and memories with him.
At this point, he probably has enough stories to create a book, but I will continue to write to him until he’s old enough to take over. Initially, I thought about this because of the unknown. What if I die before he grows into adulthood and then I would never have the opportunity to share our memories like my parents did with me? I want to make sure he knows he was loved from the very beginning and in my own words.These are positive reminders for when he’s feeling down, needs to be uplifted or just curious about his early years – when he was an infant, toddler and small child. It’s saved safely (hopefully), where only my partner and I have access.
There are so many different ways to capture memories and this one I just had to do to “stay with the times”.